That gut-wrenching moment when you find out your ex has moved on with someone else.Whether they’re seeing, sleeping with or in a full blown relationship with someone else, the pain of knowing that it’s really over can be unbearable.A little bit of bruised ego is natural but if you become consumed by his new relationship or exploits, it may be time to ask whether you’re really over him, and if you are; what is it about your own life that makes this news so unbearable.Often you’ll find that the reason it bothers you is because you have taken his actions as some sort of reflection on you and the past you shared together.It will fill the gap where the relationship was and will fix what they’re feeling, which they can’t handle or deal with alone.Even if the relationship ended for the right reasons and they don’t want to be with you, moving on quickly doesn’t mean they’ve forgotten you.But the reality is that it’s probably not going to happen like that and it’s a littttttle bit childish.Does it really matter which one of you starts dating first and does it that he’s dating?
And the thought of it just being a rebound relationship is very comforting.
It is easy to want to compare yourself to your ‘replacement’ and wonder what he sees in her, but the reality is that you’ll probably never know and you’re burning up energy better used elsewhere.
Some people start dating to force themselves to move on, some to bury the pain and yes, some are just ready to jump back in the saddle.
I think part of that pain is not being able to understand how they’re able to move on so quickly.
How can they just disregard us and go straight into something with someone else? So how can they just hop onto Tinder in search of the next person whilst we’re crying ourselves to sleep, resembling someone who looks possessed the next morning?